Daily Dilemma

DAILY DILEMMA

FRIENDSHIPS

Good day! Do you ever wish you knew what was going on in someones head? Maybe if you knew your perception about that person would be different? Well, let's take a look at this scenario (remember all scenarios are acts of fiction):

The talk around the water cooler these days was the birth of Eileen's first born. The mood around the office has been of excitement with three friends. Eileen, Pam, and Debbie have all worked together for the past 7 years and have shared many meals, girls retreat weekends to the coast, and wine tasting. They have all been a part of each others weddings and holiday gatherings. This event was no different.

Pam had taken the lead in heading up Eileen's baby shower. She had secured the venue at C's Restaurant, bought all the decorations, invitations, and controlled the guest list. Pam's so free with her money and been very generous with other events in the past. Debbie was very excited for Eileen and talked nothing but how many times she will to babysit for Eileen so she and her husband can spend time quality time together after the birth of the baby.

The day of the event arrived and Debbie is no where in sight. Eileen asks Pam where Debbie could be. "I hope she's alright. She's never missed an event." I'll give her a call."

Eileen punched in Debbie's phone number and listened to the buzzing. No answer and no answering machine. "That's odd." As Eileen clicked her cell phone closed.

Debbie sat on her bed and listened as the phone rang over and over. Tears streaked her faced she knew who called, but couldn't bare to answer. She knew she was not attending the party for her guilt was to much to bare. Debbie received a pay cut and was unable to buy a gift for Eileen. She made the decision to quit her job on Monday and never speak to Eileen and Pam again.

Anaylsis: I know this must sound drastic; however, there are people who really feel this way. They see other people give material items and buy big lavish gifts and are unable to recipricate.

Solution: Don't you think Debbie at least owns both Eileen and Pam an explaination. Communication in a relationship is key. Why keep it to yourself when I bet Pam and Eileen would have been more than understanding. Sometimes we destroy relationship unnecessarily.