DAILY DILEMMA
FRIENDSHIPS
Welcome back to my daily dilemma. I am writing these to help people look at the way they live their lives. Keep in mind all scenarios are just that scenarios. They are fictional in nature. However, most of these scenarios can be very real and hit home for a lot of you. So today's scenario is about friendship. Ever invite a friend over and they never leave?
Angela grabbed the phone and put it to here ear and belted out, "hello." "Hey Angela it's Toni. I got a new barbecue and would love it if you can join us for dinner tonight." "Toni, oh hi. I'd love to come over. Can I bring anything?" "No no just yourself." "Great what time?" "How about 2pm." "Perfect I'll see you then." "Looking forward to Angela, bye." Angela placed the phone back on the cradle and skipped to the shower to get ready. Angela was so excited she couldn't wait until 2pm and decided to leave early. She really enjoys Toni's company and has a great time when they get together.
Toni is frantically picking items up off the floor and cleaning her kitchen to make it look presentable for her company today. Toni curses as the door bell rings at 12:45pm. "Who could that be?" She draws a breath as she looks through the peep hole and sees Angela standing there with a six pack of beer and homemade cake in her hand. Toni is thinking to herself, "Why is she here so early? I'm not even close to being ready for anyone to walk in my house." Toni puts a smile on her face as she opens the door. "Angela you are early!" Yes, I was so excited I wanted to just come early. I know we are going to have a blast."
As the day goes on both women share much food and drink. Toni is starting to get tired and looks at the clock and it's 11:50pm. She yawns as a hint for Angela to get going home, but she isn't budging.
Analysis: It's nice to have friends and invite them over for a good time. However, when friends arrive early and stay for hours on end this can put a strain on the relationship. Keeping good boundries is very important. Setting and awarness of yours and others boundries is crucial to a good solid relationhship. When someone says 2pm, then it's 2pm. You can show up a few minutes early, but 2hours is crossing the line. Everyone is different on how long to stay but typically a few hours is just enough time to enjoy and sets the tone for the next time! Staying longer should be mutally agreed upon and using good judgement about what's appropriate is necessary.
Solution: How do you know when you are over staying your welcome? What is a reasonable time frame and limit to visiting a friend?
Stay tuned for more of your daily dilemma. See if you are able to answer these questions for yourself. How do you enhance your friendships?
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